What do you give your power away to??
I’m gonna be honest here. I’m guilty of sometimes willingly giving my power away to something or someone else.
There are often things that I know would nourish and support me if I took action…. yet I choose something far less supportive in a moment of exhaustion or even just out of pure habituation.
When we’re used to regularly turning off our thinking brains by watching a tv show, or de-stressing with an alcoholic drink at the end of each night, for example, it can be hard to imagine doing something else that might actually help replenish our energy.
Or… in my case…. I’ve spent quite a lot of time thinking about dating over the past couple of years. Not that that’s a BAD thing… it’s just that – if I’m totally honest – I could have probably created a whole empire by now if I had funneled all the energy I’ve used thinking about dating into that instead.
We have to offer ourselves compassion around our habitual patterns. We’re often doing EXACTLY what’s called for at the time – even if it doesn’t look very creative or powerful.
I mean… after being with my ex husband from the time I was 16 years old, I completely understand why this new world of dating might pull at my attention.
Part of taking my power back this month, is being really honest with myself. Because if there’s anything I’ve learned over the past couple years, it’s this:
Where you put your attention is what grows.
I’ve reached a particular point in my life where I’d like to shift my focus.
I’d like to put my attention towards building a future and a certain level of stability for myself and my children.
When I first got divorced, I was scared to be alone. I didn’t know if I could do it all on my own and I was almost hoping to be saved somehow.
Here I am, a couple years later, and I’m confident I can do it on my own. In fact, I can almost feel how pleasurable it is to be my own anchor and to make things happen in my life.
Now that doesn’t mean I don’t still desire a partner or that I won’t still go on dates from time to time…
It’s just that I want to use my precious energy to CREATE my life.
Which means I have to honestly admit where my attention has been, and then shift it to where I’d like it to be instead.
Comment and tell me…
Are you unintentionally giving away your power to something or someone? How can you start to slowly shift your focus to where you’d like it to be? Do you even KNOW what it is you’d rather have your attention focused on?